Being alone is not a weakness; needing a soul is!
The fear of loneliness is a universal feeling; many dread thoughts of being alone. Technology has benefits; however, society has set us back as a nation. Technologies’ primary influence is on Millennials/Gen Z. The average attention span of a Millennial & Gen Z has descended astronomically compared to former generations.
Moreover, social media plays an immense role in this decline; it has expanded communication opportunities while limiting social skills and genuine connections by occupying the mind of society.
A prime way of this depletion is the attack on individualism; independence has lost meaning in our culture. This generation is full of people who waste time connecting for the significance of social media [instagram pictures] or the infatuation with the facade of social media while marinating in the comparison game.
Social media has produced deep insecurities by distorting true confidence; this generation solidifies identity through popularity. These distracted generations will do anything to avoid productive solitude – focusing on self-growth, healing, and building.
The value of Millenial and Gen Z relies on notoriety, not individuality; dreams and aspirations are motivated by fame and money. Self-worth has redefined its meaning. The significance of understanding identity stands discounted; impersonators are the favored selection.
The Imposter Culture
Authenticity is foreign in this Age; nationals found comfort in representatives. When we lack a true sense of identity, we tend to live in the shadow of others, struggling with relationships.
I have had friends who would often complain about a particular individual they were not fond of but continued to associate with – they were either bored, lacked substance/direction, had FOMO tendencies, or feared solitude.
A witness to folks who struggled mentally and financially but religiously flexed on the gram for likes and shares. Similarly, Codependents: are people who remain in toxic relationships believing the absence of a relationship results in loneliness, which for odd reasons [to them] is worse than toxicity.
People with this mindset believe being alone is worse than tolerating disrespect, cheating, beating, feuding, shouting, and the possibility of dying. Perfect sense? Throw the whole brain away!
Sadly this thinking pattern has disseminated. Individuals in this classification have identity issues; unfortunately, they are not enamored with themselves – craving the dependence and validation of others.
Nevertheless, this is not to diminish nor be insensitive to those with tragic upbringings and past experiences that transformed their identities or unhealthy habits. Conclusively, I’m highlighting where we need to focus versus collectively where societies focus.
Finding Identity In Others
People are not solutions [unless in elimination] to our problems – most romantic relationships involve insecure individuals seeking titles to fill their void.Â
Avoid such toxic people, so avoid yourself or dating in LA… I’m fooling.
Insecurities are self-destructive – steering individuals to tolerate disrespectful and lethal relationships, thus blinding and robbing them of worth and value. People get hurt in relationships when their partner’s validations define their identity.
Breakups become detrimental when one wraps their identity in the hands of their partner, driving them to fall apart when their mate departs – rooted in the lack of independence, self-worth, and value.
Society has deceived men and women into believing marriage is a degree they must quickly obtain; this toxic mentality rushes many to settle for less and commit to the wrong companion. Love is organic and should be embraced naturally, not through arrangements or environmental pressures.
If you have detrimental insecurities – the last thing you need is a relationship; thug it out, be frank, and eradicate the root of the problem instead of seeking a temporary bandage that causes deeper wounds.
Power
Solitude is powerful; it aids in recognizing who we are. Essentially we must be candid with ourselves: the cute, the ugly, and the corny.
In truth – we grow and mature, our perspective widens, and our understanding broadens. Our patience will increase, and our rage will decrease.
Once we comprehend individualism, we become stable in identity, a house built on rocks – no wind can knock us down. Our health becomes A1: mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Identity compels the disclosure of purpose. Discerning strengths and weaknesses instructs us to function fruitfully.
Spend time alone and make it regular; eat, walk on the beach (no music), write, think, read, exercise, and be still. Creative juice will activate; true confidence will flourish!
Trust – it is liberating to spend time alone. This act roots independence, confidence, and self-growth that we all must acquire.
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